- Why aren't you married yet?
- When are you planning on getting married?
- When are we going to see a bride or a groom (in reference to a newborn girl or boy)? (to married couples)
Let's start with the first and second, I personally get them a lot, and I once wrote my response to it here. So, I won't add to them.
Question #3, really gets on my nerves. I know many married couples who still don't have children, and I know the pressure that the society imposes on them, be it intentionally and unintentionally. In not so many words, there are two possible answers to why a couple don't have children yet:
- They don't want to have children
- They are not being able to
And either ways, it is none of your business. In the first case, this is their choice, so simply, bug off! In the second case, no one is ignorant about this subject anymore, they either talk to their closest people about it and take their opinion and they definitely consult their doctor who will suggest several ways to make the conception possible.
Can you imagine how annoying a person appears to be when they ask a couple why they don't have children and their reason is case #2. Why would you put someone under this awkwardness and annoyance, certainly they already feel sad and upset and about it. And not to forget it might lead to the couples fighting in case one of them isn't fertile enough...
I am not saying these questions are forbidden to be asked, but these questions can be asked at a certain time, and by certain persons and not every relative or neighbor those people have.
The annoying curiosity needs to go away, respect for privacy is something a bit new in our society, but needs to be more widespread.
p.s. there is nothing embarrassing about not being able to have children, there are many medical solutions out there.
Any other typical Lebanese questions bother you?